The Powerful Redemption and Forgiveness of Christ

One of the many ways Jesus has worked in my life is when He brought back one of my ex’s into my life about a year ago. And he’s honestly not just any ex. I say this because I thought he was “the one” for me. The guy I would spent the rest of my life with, and we would have a family of our own someday. He was also my best friend. I could talk to him about anything, and he would be there to listen and give me very honest advice. He was so intelligent. Intelligent as in he was a gifted child. Which was one of the many things about him that drew me to him. He was easy to talk to, and we would have different discussions until 4:00 a.m. Those are the nights I’ll never forget. Next to those nights where we would dance to our favorite songs. I was with him for 4 years. He was my high school sweetheart. I’ve learned so much from him. Through the good and bad, I learned a lot from him.

We were young, reckless, did anything we needed to do to survive, lost to some extent, and we didn’t know what we wanted to do as careers. All we did know was we were so in love with each other that we would do anything just to be together, and wanted to travel together. The adventures we did together I’ll never forget. As the years went on, our relationship became worse. He turned out to become someone I didn’t know anymore, and I became someone I didn’t know anymore either.

I lost myself to a guy who abused me emotionally, verbally, mentally, and physically all in one night. He was overly drunk, and I had one cup of vodka. Don’t worry. There is a happy ending to this love story. Around that time, I was lost, confused, super depressed, hopeless, and miserable. I wanted to stay in my dark cocoon and never come out. When I looked at myself through my reflection, I didn’t recognized the woman on the other side from the mirror. I went through so many phases and changes during my 4 years with him that I didn’t know who I was anymore. All I saw was a woman who had lost all hope and had no future.

I didn’t understand why that horrifying night happened. I didn’t know what the missing link was, nor what drove us to that point in our relationship. But I think God put us through that night for a reason. God always knows things in advance, after all. Possibly for us to go on our separate ways to find our home in Him on our own time; when the time was right in His hands. I held onto him for as long as I did not just because I loved him more than anything in this world, but because I knew all of that rage he was carrying on his shoulders wasn’t exactly who he was as a person on the inside. Since day one, I saw the goodness inside of him. The goodness I saw in him was slowly coming out on the outside while we were living together for about 6 months. Looking back, if we didn’t drink a lot of alcohol like we did, maybe that night wouldn’t have happened. Who knows.

Flash forward to present time, I found him on Instagram a year ago a couple of days after his birthday. He apologized to me for what he did to me 4 to 5 years ago, and I forgave him. I forgave him because I didn’t want to carry that bitterness from that night in my heart anymore, and he sounded sincerely sorry. I have always been a forgiving person. Even when I set my boundaries to anyone, I still forgive in the end. Forgiveness has always been a part of who I am.

We decided to talk more after we found each other again on Instagram. And I must say, I’m grateful for the man he has become today; all thanks to our God working within him to become the man he was meant to be since the day God created him. Throughout time of us getting to know the people we have become today, we did learn how to forgive each other more from our past mistakes with each other. We learned more day by day on how to love each other like the way God loves us, and he showed me to Christ. We made some bumps there and there, but we came out stronger together every time like we have before, we learned to love each other better and loved each other holy like Jesus does. I wouldn’t be where I am today in my relationship with Christ without his teachings, his godly guidance, and without his supernatural experiences and faith with Christ.

Currently, we are on good terms, and we love each other platonically. Our past with each other, that chapter is officially closed. We are definitely not the people we once were. All thanks to God’s grace that has saved us from our old selves, and all thanks to our God in general. We wouldn’t be where we are today with each other without His guidance, teachings, punishments, and without His never ending love for us. We may not talk as much as we used to. But when we do, we talk right where we left off the last time we talked, and some closures were made. We may not be perfect, we are so flawed, and we may not be able to be together romantically due to our past mistakes with my parents (and possibly his parents too), but we have a God who brought peace between us. God gave us the courage to bring peace with each other, and leave the past where it belongs. I thank God every day through my prayers for sending a guy like him into my life.

And I thank him through my prayers for showing me to Christ. Ever since the day I gave my life to Christ, I’m doing better than I ever was. I also wouldn’t be the type of person I am today without him. He’s a huge part of my life in more ways than one. Next to God. Thank you God, for everything you have done for he and I thus far. And thank you God, for watching both of us individually. 🙏

I pray my story will inspire you to forgive someone who has done you wrong, even if they think that person doesn't deserve forgiveness. God has forgiven us for every sin the day He was nailed to that wooden cross. He forgave us the moment we gave our lives to Him. Forgive one another as God has forgiven you. I pray you'll have faith that people can change for the better when they give themselves to Christ. Through God, you'll become a new creation. Through God, you'll become redeemed.

Through God, anything is possible. It's amazing how God does marvelous works between two people. It's amazing how God can rescue us from anything that holds us back from continuing to move forward, and He'll help us to be content in the present.